Making new friends is always exciting, but what happens when your new friend doesn’t share your faith in God? If you’re a godly feminine woman, you might wonder how to stay true to your beliefs while building a friendship with someone who doesn’t believe. Don’t worry! It’s entirely possible to be a light in their life without being pushy, awkward, or “that” friend who turns every conversation into a sermon (you know the one).
Here are some practical (and loving) ways to be a godly feminine woman toward new friends who don’t believe in God, all while keeping it real and being your authentic self.
1. Be Authentic (No Need for the “Holier-Than-Thou” Attitude)
One of the best ways to approach friendships with people who don’t share your faith is to be genuine. No one likes feeling judged or preached at, so leave the “holier-than-thou” attitude at the door. Be yourself—kind, compassionate, and authentic. It’s your life and love for God that will speak louder than any words you could say.
Scripture: “Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)
(Translation: Be a living example of your faith, and let God do the heavy lifting when it comes to the rest.)
2. Listen Before You Speak
It’s tempting to want to share your faith immediately, but the best way to win someone’s heart is by showing them that you care. Take time to listen to your new friend’s thoughts, beliefs, and experiences. Ask questions with genuine curiosity, not with the intention of finding an “in” to start debating. Build trust by being a friend who listens more than she talks.
Scripture: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19)
(God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason—use them in that ratio!)
3. Live Out Your Faith (No Megaphone Required)
Your actions will speak louder than words. When your friend sees how you live with integrity, grace, and love, they’ll notice there’s something different about you. Be the kind of person who’s honest, generous, and kind—even when it’s inconvenient. This is how you quietly yet powerfully show them what being a godly woman looks like.
Scripture: “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” (James 1:22)
(Think of it like this: Your life is the Bible they’re reading right now. Make it a good read!)
4. Avoid the “Savior Complex”
It’s not your job to save anyone—that’s God’s territory. As much as you might want to see your new friend come to faith, don’t approach the friendship like they’re your “project.” Instead, just be their friend. Love them as they are, and trust God to work in their life in His timing. Remember, you’re planting seeds, not single-handedly converting anyone.
Scripture: “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.” (Ephesians 2:8)
(Reminder: You’re not their Savior, Jesus is. Relax and enjoy the friendship!)
5. Be Bold (But Not Pushy) About Your Beliefs
Being friends with someone who doesn’t believe in God doesn’t mean you have to hide your faith. Be open about who you are, what you believe, and how God shapes your life—but don’t shove it down their throat. If the conversation naturally turns toward spiritual topics, share your faith honestly, without pressure or expectation.
Scripture: “Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” (1 Peter 3:15)
(Key words: Gentleness and respect. Boldness doesn’t mean bulldozing.)
6. Pray for Them (Without Making It Weird)
Prayer is powerful, but it’s important to be sensitive about how you approach it. If your friend doesn’t believe in God, they might not be comfortable with you offering to pray for them right away. Instead, pray for them in private, asking God to work in their heart and life. Over time, as your friendship grows, you might have the opportunity to pray with them.
Scripture: “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)
(Your prayers for your friend might be the most impactful thing you ever do for them—even if they don’t know it.)
7. Love Them as Christ Loves You
This is the heart of being a godly feminine woman toward anyone—love. Not the conditional, “I’ll love you if you believe what I believe” kind of love, but the unconditional, sacrificial love that Christ shows us. Your new friend might have very different values or even challenge your beliefs, but loving them through it all is the greatest testimony you can give.
Scripture: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34)
(Translation: Love first. Ask questions later. That’s what Jesus does.)
8. Don’t Compromise Your Values
While it’s important to be loving and open-minded, it’s equally important to hold firm to your values. You don’t need to water down your faith to make someone comfortable. True friends will respect your beliefs, even if they don’t share them. Stay grounded in who you are as a godly woman and be true to the principles that guide your life.
Scripture: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)
(Don’t feel like you need to “blend in.” God made you to stand out—embrace it.)
9. Be Patient (Faith is a Journey)
If your new friend doesn’t believe in God, understand that faith is a journey, not a sprint. Don’t expect them to change overnight. Instead, be patient, pray, and continue being a light in their life. Trust that God is working in ways you may not even see.
Scripture: “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead, he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9)
(God is patient—so should we be.)
10. Have Fun Together!
At the end of the day, friendship should be fun! Don’t overcomplicate things. Go to coffee, laugh together, talk about life, and build memories. Sometimes the best way to show someone the love of God is just to be a joyful, kind, and loving presence in their life. Joy is contagious!
Scripture: “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” (Proverbs 17:22)
(Laughter is a universal language—so enjoy the friendship!)
Building friendships with people who don’t share your faith doesn’t mean compromising who you are. It’s about showing them the love of Christ through your actions, your kindness, and your authentic self. Being a godly feminine woman isn’t about preaching; it’s about living out your faith in such a way that others are drawn to the light of Christ within you. Just remember: you’re planting seeds, and God is the one who makes them grow. Trust the process, love your new friend, and let God do the rest.
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